iPhone Ex-Girlfriend APP

29 08 2009

Umm….creppy, especially around the 34 second mark, but still hella funny.

[H/T: Oliver Willis]


Chris Rock on Love and Relationships

28 07 2008

I had to post this as a Monday please-get-me-through-the-day pick me up.

Mixed Race Marriages By State

29 06 2008

While doing some work related research the other day, I stumbled upon an interesting graphic (see below) as I was reading a 2003 report analyzing 2000 U.S. Census racial data by the demographer William Frey.

Not surprisingly, Frey found that interracial marriages went up from 4.4 percent in 1990 to 6.7 percent in 2000. But what I found fascinating was how disproportionate the rates of intermarriage was among different races. According to Frey, prevalence of mixed marriages nationally among Hispanics and Asians was roughly the same at 29.7 percent and 28.9 respectively, whereas only 12.9 percent of black folk overall were involved in an interracial marriage.

To provide some perspective here, in 2000, Asians accounted for 3.4 percent of the U.S. population, while Hispanics and African Americans both accounted for 12 percent, according to the U.S. Census Bureau numbers.

Another unsurprising yet still very interesting factoid was that California, Texas, Florida, and New York had the most mixed race marriages. In fact, California led the nation in being home “to one in four of all mixed-race marriages involving Latinos, and nearly one in three involving Asians.”

Clicking on the map will give you a slightly better resolution of the graphic, but I recommend reviewing the 10-page report to get superior image quality as well as a better understanding the data. The report consists of mostly graphs anyway.

(H/T: William Frey)

Update: This post has been updated with additional demographic information.

The Case for Settling

14 02 2008

On Valentine’s Day we frequently hear relationship experts tell couples they need spontaneity to keep the flame of passion alive, communication to sustain the bonds of intimacy, honesty to promote mutual respect. But little attention is paid to the wisdom of the strategy of the wear-you-down-method.

What’s that? Simply put, it can simply be described as hard headed persistence in wooing a woman. Women beware! Some men can be frighteningly committed to this approach. And they do it because it works.

In her essay, “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good EnoughLori Gottlieb Writing for March issue for the Atlantic Monthly, illustrated the cold realism inspired by the the wear-you-down-method.

Money quote:

Then there’s my friend Chris, a single 35-year-old marketing consultant who for three years dated someone he calls “the perfect woman”—a kind and beautiful surgeon. She broke off the relationship several times because, she told him with regret, she didn’t think she wanted to spend her life with him. Each time, Chris would persuade her to reconsider, until finally she called it off for good, saying that she just couldn’t marry somebody she wasn’t in love with. Chris was devastated, but now that his ex-girlfriend has reached 35, he’s suddenly hopeful about their future.

“By the time she turns 37,” Chris said confidently, “she’ll come back. And I’ll bet she’ll marry me then. I know she wants to have kids.” I asked Chris why he would want to be with a woman who wasn’t in love with him. Wouldn’t he be settling, too, by marrying someone who would be using him to have a family? Chris didn’t see it that way at all. “She’ll be settling,” Chris said cheerfully. “But not me. I get to marry the woman of my dreams. That’s not settling. That’s the fantasy.”

Now that’s what I call cold blooded calculation. I don’t condone it, since there are obvious flaws to this strategy, but you do have to admire his resolve, even if it distorts one’s sense of reality and comes at the expense of much greater fulfillment.

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A Boss Like You

14 11 2007

I stumbled on this thought provoking post on 60 Second Science. I do find the claim all that convincing, but that’s just me.

Social psychologists from the University of Granada found that bosses who feel insecure or unqualified to hold their position often choose to hire and surround themselves with less competent people. On the contrary, bosses who feel qualified prefer to hire exceedingly competent people who can take on responsibility.

Researchers divided subjects into two groups, one was told they were qualified for their position of power, while the others were told they were not. All were instructed to choose between a very competent and sociable subordinate and a person with noticeably less competence and sociability.

“The illegitimate bosses preferred the less competent and sociable candidates in a higher proportion than did the legitimate bosses. In addition to this they requested more information about the candidate positively described than about the candidate described more negatively.”

But what about bosses with an unwarranted amount of self-confidence or who are just plain lazy? I suppose that’s why some of them “felt” qualified, whether or not they were is up for debate.

Marriage for Life? Or Just in 7 year Increments?

21 09 2007


If being married for life is too burdensome a commitment for you, how about just for 7 years with the option to renew? Well, apparently that’s what a German lawmaker has proposed. The AFP reports:

A conservative German politician on Wednesday proposed making marriage contracts expire after seven years, with the option to renew for those not feeling the proverbial itch.

“I propose that marriages lapse after seven years,” Gabriele Pauli told reporters in Munich, the capital of the largely Catholic southern state of Bavaria.

“This would mean that one will only commit for a fixed period and will actively have to renew your vows if you still want to continue.”

Pauli, 50, has been divorced twice.

The proposal is part of her manifesto as she prepares to contest the leadership of Bavaria’s governing party, the ultra-conservative Christian Social Union (CSU), next week.

Considering that a 2001 Census Bureau report says “First marriages that end in divorce
last about 8 years, on average
” this might be the solution to the high yet declining divorce rate in the U.S.

Interestingly enough, some are reportedly avoiding marriage altogther and simply opting to co-habitate instead.